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Five Commonly Asked Questions About In-Home Care

Over the years, we’ve worked with family after family to help them get in-home care for a spouse, parent, grandparent or other loved one, and in that time, we’ve heard every question you can possibly imagine. It can be a difficult decision, and having these answers ahead of time may help. Here are five typical questions for someone considering in-home care:

1. How can I trust having a stranger in my parent/grandparent/loved one’s house?

A reputable and trustworthy company, in addition to be licensed, and insured, will also perform rigorous screening and background checks of any potential care providers. And while it’s impossible to guarantee that a care provider is absolutely perfect, the stricter the screening process, the more stock you can put in their choices of care providers. A good company will also get referrals and feedback from previous employers and use their best judgment when choosing a care provider to refer to you. And, of course, you can do your own due diligence, too!

In the end, we only refer the most trustworthy and reliable care providers to our clients because our goal is your comfort, safety, and ultimate satisfaction.

2. What happens if we don’t like the caregiver that we select?

It’s essential to us that you be fully satisfied with the contractor that you select and that the client have someone who is socially and personally compatible. If you feel that your provider is not a good fit, we’ll help you to find another caregiver as quickly as we can. After all, your loved one’s comfort and safety is of utmost importance. Our goal is to provide you with referred caregivers until you make a compatible match, and we exhaust every possibility to make sure that happens.

3. Shouldn’t I just move in with my loved one and do this myself?

Family caregiving, while seeming on the surface to be easier and more manageable, only really works when there are multiple family members who are all willing (and not being forced) to share the responsibility, as well as family members who are medically and clinically trained. Caregiving is more than just keeping a home clean and providing companionship. It requires a vigilance on health, medication, and more, and when you hire someone to provide the in-home care, you free yourself up to focus on love and support instead.

4. Can I monitor the way my loved one is being treated?

Absolutely! Open communication with your caregiver is key.  Remember, you are always in charge of your care and will work directly with the referred caregiver to create the schedule and the duties to be carried out. The company that referred the caregiver is there to support both you and the caregiver.  You can always reach out to them for assistance at any time. Once again, it’s our goal for everyone to be safe, happy, and healthy!

5. Is my spouse/parent/grandparent/loved one going to lose his/her independence?

The benefit of in-home care is that a lot of independence can be retained. Of course, this is dependent on the level of care needed, and their own mobility, strength and acuity. If there’s a deterioration in physical and/or mental health, independence will suffer, but that’s only in the worst-case scenarios. In-home care is typically centered around tasks that cannot be done alone, or tasks where your loved one may need some assistance. Our goal is to assist our clients in remaining as independent as possible for as long as possible, and we think that’s the healthiest approach for everyone involved.

Here at Compassionate Care, we’re dedicated to making sure that every client gets the attention, respect, care, and answers that they need. Contact us today if you have more questions about setting up in-home care for yourself or someone close to you who needs help at home.

How To Help A Loved One Who Refuses In-Home Care

As parents and grandparents get older, they can understand that their ability to live independently is about to be negatively affected, and reactions can differ. Some will act in a healthy manner, accept the inevitable, and adapt, but others will rebel and refuse care, even if it’s in their best interests. This is especially true for anyone who is in the early stages of dementia. The memory loss and confusion can be frightening, leading to a negative personality shift that can be difficult to reconcile with the person you know.

If you’re trying to help a loved one understand and accept the help of in-home care, here are a few ways to help make the process easier:

1. Have Empathy.

The most important thing you can do is to put yourself in the shoes of your parent or grandparent. How would you feel if the family you raised was trying to take away your independence as an adult? You’d be rebellious and angry, frustrated that it’s happening in the first place, and a little scared, wouldn’t you?

Approach the conversation carefully, with compassion and understanding. Don’t presume you know what’s best for them. Instead, listen and pay attention to what they have to say about it.

2. Guide the Conversation.

A great way to move a conversation is by asking leading questions. Instead of saying “We want someone to come here to take care of you because you can’t do it anymore,” a statement that can result in someone being combative and resistant, try asking non-threatening questions instead:

“Wouldn’t it be nice if someone else cleaned the kitchen?”
“Don’t you think you’d like having someone help you run errands every week?”
“Aren’t you worried about running out of medication at the wrong time?”

Asking questions that make it difficult to say no can make it simpler to ease into a discussion of the benefits of in-home care.

3. Don’t Rush.

It can be hard to be patient in this scenario, especially if you’re worried about the safety of someone you love, but you can’t rush this. You’re asking someone to give up some of their independence, and that decision is a big one. Try to avoid setting deadlines or adding pressure, and work your way slowly to the discussion whenever it’s convenient.

4. Don’t Make The Decisions For Them.

Make it clear that they would be able to choose the caregiver, and the days and times of visits. If your parent or grandparent is agreeing to this huge decision of accepting in-home care, let them retain some independence by making the other decisions themselves. What activities would they want the most help with? Which days are the busiest for them? Do they prefer mornings or afternoons?

By bringing them in on the decision making, you’ll find that everything will go much smoother.

In the end, if you’re able to empathize with your parent or grandparent, help them still feel independent, keep their dignity intact, not pressure them, and help them to understand that you’re only trying to help them stay safe and comfortable, it can make the transition into in-home care much easier. Compassionate Care can assist with any questions your loved one may have and provide plenty of resources throughout the decision making process, so please feel free to contact us today!